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Writing that first email, what to say?
If your heart pounds, your hands get sweaty and your knees turn
to water at the thought of introducing yourself to a social event,
then introducing yourself by email combines the anxiety of a real-life
introduction with the stress of writing an essay that counts for
100 percent of the rest of your life.
Don’t worry – you’re not alone. Introducing yourself in an email
doesn’t have to be a nerve-wracking ordeal. It can be fun if you
follow these tips:
- First, take the time to read the persons profile before
you email them and quote something back from the profile to
show them you took the time and effort to read what they had to say.
- Keep it simple. It’s hard to go wrong with an opening like
“Hi, my name is ______. I read your profile and noticed that
we have quite a few interests in common. I noticed you like
to ...." For example, if they say they like dogs and you
share that in common, talk about your love for dogs. The biggest
mistake people make in their first email is not making the effort
in the first place!
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Avoid cheesy pickup
lines -- they sound insincere, and make it seem as if you are
only after “one thing”.
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A great icebreaker
is to ask for advice. For instance, if a prospective date’s
profile says she likes hiking, ask about good hiking trails
in your area, or about equipment that would be good for a beginner.
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Online dating can
help you overcome shyness because it’s non-threatening, unlike
face-to-face social events. When you’re online, nobody can see
your trembling knees or sweaty hands. And you can always back
away if things get too intense.
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Don’t try too hard
to impress – you may be creating an image you just can’t live
up to over the long term.
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The best way to be
interesting is to be interested. Ask open ended questions about
what’s important to your prospective date. Wait until you’re
asked before talking at length about yourself.
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Keep the introductions
short, but not too short. Writing "Hi, my name is David, write
back if you like my profile" will not yield the response you
want. Try not to write a novel either. The best guide-line I
can offer is, keep the first message to one average screen page.
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Don’t rush into things,
even if everything seems to be going right. Allow some time
to get to know each other before you commit to meeting in person.
Now, go give it a try and
write us back
and let us know if this article helpful.
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