So, you’ve finally got to the point where you’ve met someone online, the two of you have exchanged a few messages and perhaps chatted a few times, and now you’re ready to meet each other in real life. The following tips will help you make sure your first date is memorable for the right reasons:

For the first date, plan to keep it short. A lunch date is ideal. If the two of you really click, you can always stay out longer, or make plans to meet again.

Have a backup plan just in case the weather turns bad or the restaurant is closed.

Call a day or two beforehand to confirm the date, time and place.

Both he and she should use their own transportation on a first date. Be sure you know how to get to where you’ve agreed to meet, and show respect for your date by arriving on time.

Dress appropriately for the occasion. For her: dress comfortably, and (although it sounds like a cliché) avoid overly provocative clothing. For him: be clean and neat, get a fresh haircut and a shave. For both: shower, use a mouthwash and deodorant, and avoid strong perfume or aftershave.

For your own safety, let a friend or relative know where you’re going. Carry a cell phone with you, and be prepared to leave if things go beyond your comfort zone.

Keep the conversation light and pleasant. Good subjects include family, work and career goals, hobbies and music. Touchy subjects such as ex-girlfriends, boyfriends or spouses are always off-limits on a first date.

Show class and self control. Don’t go “all the way” on the first or second date, and drink in moderation, if you drink at all.

First dates can be stressful. Keep a sense of humor, and don’t take things too seriously.

Know when to end the date. Leave on a high note, before either of you starts getting bored. Be honest and courteous about whether you want to meet again.

Now, go give it a try and write us back and let us know if this article helpful.